There are plenty of reasons every day to complain. Traffic. Bill. Rude people. Demands. Things don’t go like you thought they would. In those moments it is very easy to slip into frustration, anger, resentment, and complaining. While it might initially feel good to rant and rave, there is evidence that ongoing tirades can have devastating effects on our emotions, mental thought processes, our physical body, and our view of life.
The Bible tells many stories of people who were negatively impacted by a heart of complaint. While they suffered in many of the ways that researchers are now discovering, some of the most damaging effects came in their ability to see the future with hope. Complaining affected how they saw God, life, and their future.
The same can happen to us today.Here are 6 ways that complaining affects our ability to move forward. Complaining:
1. Limits our ability to think creatively
Creative thinking comes alive where there is hope, vision, and passion. Complaining makes me backwards instead of forward. It makes me see only the negative and not the positive. To the complainer possibilities seem ridiculous. The complainer is never creative.
2. Limits our ability to think clearly
Clear thinking sees the past in perspective to the future. Clear thinking sees problems in light of possibilities. Clear thinking begins at the basis of knowing God can do all things. Complaining limits clear thinking by focusing on the negative that’s been done to us and the good that we deserve. It ignites an anger that destroys clear thinking.
3. Discolors our view of others
Complaining always taints relationships. When frustration, doubt, and anger take over in our heart, then everyone we come in contact with is suspect. We expect them to hurt us and fail us. We’re on edge and we wrongly interpret every word and action toward us.
4. Causes a disconnect with the goodness, closeness, and compassion of God
God is good. He has made that abundantly clear to us by giving His Son for our sin. He overwhelms us with blessings from heaven. The Bible expounds the wonders of all He has given! Complaint blinds us to His goodness. It makes us assume God is against us, God has left us, God is out to get us.
5. Makes us want to go backwards
People who complain become stuck. They camp out on pain. They take up residence in complaint. They stop moving forward and live in a moment of hurt, disappointment, loss, and hurt feelings. They choose to hurt themselves and hurt others. Life stops for those who live in complaint.
6. Erodes our ability to have hope
Perhaps the saddest of the dangers of complaining is the loss of hope. Complaining clouds the future. It assumes that the future will be filled with as much if not greater problems. It assumes there will be less love, less joy, less life.
As you face your day, do so with great hope today! Avoid the poison of complaining that will destroy your heart!
God has not left you, forsaken you, or turned against you. We know with confidence that because of Jesus, He is for us! There is forgiveness in Him! There is intimacy with Him! There is strength in Him! He is near! He will provide for your needs! He will heal you! He longs to do all of these things for you and more! Trust with confidence in Him! Cry out to Him! Let go of the poison of selfish complaining and rest in His great love and power for you!
Nor let us… complain, as some of them also complained, and were destroyed by the destroyer. 1 Corinthians 10:8a & 10
Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast the word of life Philippians 2:14b-16
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